Haven’t we all left a copy of The Five Love Languages on our partner’s side of the bed at some point? (Or maybe that’s just me.) According to the book’s author, Gary Chapman, the five love languages are:
While you might hope to come home to flowers after an argument, your partner might prefer you volunteer to do the dishes to show you care. According to Chapman, the key to a healthy relationship is for each person to express love in their partner’s preferred love language, instead of their own. Chapman says this concept applies to children, too. According to child therapist Megan Cronin Larson, a child’s primary love language typically emerges around age three or four. While you can respond to cues from your child to figure out what his or her love language is, in The 5 Love Languages of Children, Chapman encourages parents to use all five love languages with their children, in order to lay a healthy foundation for future relationships.
Die Forschung zeigt, dass Berührung für die Gesundheit lebenswichtig ist Neuroentwicklung bei Säuglingen. Aber das Bedürfnis nach Berührung - ob eine Umarmung oder ein Faustschlag - endet nicht mit dem Säuglingsalter. Körperliche Zuneigung lässt Kinder wissen, dass man sich um sie kümmert und dass man ihnen zuhört, wenn sie bereit sind zu reden. Was aber, wenn die Liebessprache Ihres Kindes Berührung ist und Sie kein großer Umarmer sind? Zugelassener Psychotherapeut und Spieltherapeut Brenna Hicks empfiehlt den Eltern, "die körperlichen Berührungen klein, aber beständig zu halten.
As parents, our lives are a never-ending blur of acts of service. How can we possibly do more? And why should we? There is a difference between responding to rapid-fire requests for snacks and help with school projects versus setting your phone aside, making eye contact, and offering to help, or taking time do something extra-special for your kid. You could...
Research shows we aren’t actually helping when we tell our kids they’re great at everything. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t use praise to connect with them in a meaningful way; rather, we should be deliberate about what we say. Parents should strive to acknowledge the effort, not the outcome. For example, instead of saying “Nice job!” when your kid comes down the slide, you could say, “I noticed how hard you worked to get up the ladder.” You could…
Experts agree, play is the optimum way to engage in quality time with young children. Says Hicks, kids “use play as their language and toys as their words. By playing with them, you learn more about them and meet their need for someone to share in their experience.” By adolescence, kids are no longer interested in playing. They are often busy with school, friends, and activities. Says Jen Harrison, mom of busy twin teens, she tries to focus completely on them in the rare moments they are together—and that this often happens in the car, which she describes as, “our best quality time.” You could…
As with the other love languages, the importance of the gift is not the gift itself, but the intention behind it. As Hicks explains, “You can feel very confident that a gift need not cost money or be extravagant for your child to appreciate the extension of love.” You could…
Unabhängig davon, welche Sprache der Liebe Sie mit Ihrem Kind "sprechen", erinnert uns Cronin Larson daran, dass unsere volle Präsenz das größte Geschenk ist, das wir unseren Kindern machen können. Also... legen Sie Ihr Handy weg und verbinden Sie sich mit Ihrem Kind, am Valentinstag und an jedem anderen Tag.
Nach der Geburt eines Kindes ändern sich die Dynamik, die Verantwortlichkeiten und die Prioritäten zwischen einem Paar. Viele erleben diese Phase als eine Form der Trauer. Hier erfahren Sie, wie Sie damit umgehen können.
Kleine, bewusste Handlungen prägen das Gefühl des Kindes, wertgeschätzt zu werden. Seine Liebe zu zeigen, erfordert ständige Anstrengung und Sorgfalt, aber es ist die Investition wert.
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